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“Don’t be a Richard” I like to say. I feel that some people hold themselves back from true change because they feel that their time or opportunity has come and gone. And then subsequently head down the trail of “lost opportunity” and “I could have been _____”. There’s nothing more depressing in my mind. Listening to people recount excuse-riddled tales of past attempts at glory, and then delve into how they’ll never be able to accomplish XYZ due to CBA always leaves me thinking “Man, F–K THAT!”

I’d rather die enormous, than live dormant. – Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter

I am confident that there are people out there that won’t pursue what provides them with true joy because either they a) set an unattainable goal or b) feel that the timing isn’t right. I know these people exist because I used to be one of them. Hell, I’m still one of them. We can dive into appropriate goal-setting later, this rant is reserved solely for dispelling the myth of the “perfect time” to do something.

That Jay-Z quote above isn’t completely irrelevant. Sure, if we consider what he’s done “enormous”,  then 99% of us will never achieve that. But what I find to be enormous is the constant process of betterment and the pursuit of complete joy. I’d much rather be doing something that puts me on the path towards what I want out of life, rather than sit around pondering life’s alternate route, and barely doing a thing about it.

I won’t pretend that I’ve never been there. I’ve been there. Plenty of times. And then I found that a lot of the reasons I gave myself, were really just excuses, and that I really was just dicking around; not putting myself in the right position to achieve what I wanted. I then realized that all it takes is a few minor tweaks the schedule (and mindset) and life would start rewarding me with the goals I wanted to achieve. Paolo Coelho once wrote “One day you will wake up and there won’t be any time to do all the things you’ve always wanted. Do it now.” Sure, it might serve the purpose of striking fear into the hearts of wanderlusts and underachievers alike, but it certainly has merit. Since time is our most valuable resource it’s in our interest to make the best of it. That means doing the things that you want to do, that you should do, and that matter to you. As the impulsive among us open new internet tabs to find flight and hotel prices for destinations far far away. I’ll take this time to remind you it isn’t easy. There are no shortcuts. Things will suck. But it will be worth it.

I feel timing is a honed skill in life as it is the arts. You have to study it and you have to practice it. And while we may not be in control of the timing per-se, we are certainly in control of what we do with our time. And what we do with our time leads us to certain opportunities because of our choice to use time to practice a certain skill. And that time can be in small or great amounts, but it must be consistent.

So what am I saying right now? Find out what’s really a reason and what’s actually an excuse. You can use the old “In ten years from now will CBA matter?” question to guide you in your decision making as to what you will need to sacrifice for your pursuit. And I suppose, since this is a running blog, that there is this underlying “Stop being on the internet, dilly-dallying (can’t believe I used that word) around when you know you really wish you were running” theme, but this entirely true for anything. Don’t get caught up in the past, concern yourself in the present. It’s never to late to stop dicking around.

You cannot afford to live in potential for the rest of your life; at some point, you have to unleash the potential and make your move. – Eric Thomas